Kartini's Day Reflection

MYTH Eve was created from Adam's rib prophet quite entrenched in society, causing the woman is seen as a complement of men. Superiority of men also become commonplace. But that was then! Now, along with the times, the notion of freedom began to undermine the myth. If the first lady just be regarded as 'waiter' by men, now they position themselves parallel to the men, they would no longer be 'under' the men.Today, almost no longer a gap between men and women. Jobs should be handled by men, now many are done by women. Of construction laborers, rickshaw drivers, boxers, football players, pilots, director of the company to the president, almost nothing is missed.Today we commemorate Kartini Day. If only Prince Maya (RA) Kartini still exist among us, maybe he'll smile with pride to see the development of women in the country. RA Kartini was a national figure who laid the foundation of gender equality or women's emancipation.Initially, Kartini saw driven by a concern for discrimination against women in obtaining an adequate education. Through his letters are routinely sent to his friends in Holland, he poured out his heart, about the concerns of women in this country, about his desire to advance his people, and realize the ideals of equality between women and men. By his friends in the Netherlands, the letters were collected and published into a book called Door Duisternis tot Licht (Light After Dark). This book is the foundation of 'construction' of gender equality in Indonesia.Women's emancipation movement in Indonesia, it has yielded many positive results. Characterized by the increasing number of women who come to the surface of the intellect. But it can not be denied, in her emancipation, women are often faced with problems as a reflection of cultural dilemma that often conflict with the household. This is the biggest challenge in her women's emancipation, which is running a dual role!dual-role-wanitaTanpa leave nature as human reproduction, women also have to 'fight' a human being productive. On the one hand, nature as a mother requires to care for and educate children, while on the other hand he is busy with his career. Career women have to prove himself as a productive human being, at the same time, they also recognize themselves have drawbacks due to physical conditions that often have a critical period (menstruation, pregnancy, etc.).Failure to execute multiple roles can lead to a depressive state. Anticipating this, some career women tend to 'run' and choose a single woman. This option was actually a problem, considering the woman had to let the 'biological clock' passed, which means deprifasi both in sexuality and in obtaining offspring. Not to mention the views of people who are always negative for single women as impressed as the woman who 'do not sell' or 'unattractive'.Career women who married in the end much to delegate his duties as a 'mother' in others. The problem is, can the love of a mother is given indirectly? Psychologically, this will cause a conflict between mother and child. This conflict has the potential to interfere with the development of the child in later life. Not infrequently, many children who have 'broken home', to 'protest' in a negative way.Along with the development of emancipation in the ground water quality classification based on the size of female beauty, fascination and religious devotion began to be abandoned. Now, she qualified to be highly educated and skilled in life. This fact led to the role of sexuality in a society experiencing a shift in values.Issues of sexuality began to be regarded as a form of expression of life. But along with that, other problems arise, given that male sexuality is an encouragement 'high importance'. It should be anticipated by a career woman in her emancipation. But limiting behavior, appearance, space outdoors and limit the time and place to hang out just to save themselves from the 'instinct hard' it is 'fetters' that hinder the career of a woman's career.Emancipation of women was not easy. The struggle of women in realizing emancipation or gender equality has always led to the dilemma which sometimes takes sacrifice. May the torch that has been dinyalahkan RA Kartini in the glowing heart so exhausted kaummnya darkest before the dawn, will never be dark again!